Every morning is a test. You have to get your little one out of bed because the mistress doesn’t wait! What can be done so that this awakening, sometimes brutal, remains a pleasant moment for all? Find the advice of Julie Renauld Millet, therapist, author of “My child does not want to sleep”.
A few tips for parents to make waking up their children easier
It’s true that it’s difficult for us parents to wake up these little bodies, deeply asleep and still warm, we tend to tell ourselves that we’re going to let him enjoy another 10 or 15 minutes, even if it means speeding up once upright. Even if the intention is good, it can be counterproductive. A waking up in stress and rush will condition the rest of his day. Better to wake up a bit abruptly, and take the time to then go through all the stages (toilets, clothing, breakfast) calmly and gently, rather than a bit of sleep and a morning under pressure with “Hurry- you, we’re going to be late!” every five minutes. We must not forget either that each child has his own rhythm and that it is not the same as that of adults. It’s important to remember this in our lives as hyperactive parents. If waking up is difficult for some children, it can also be explained by the fact that they have not reached their quota of hours of sleep. It would be a good idea to try putting them to bed earlier the night before and see if this affects their awakening.
There is no one miracle trick that works for all children. There are as many tricks as children, everyone has their own sensitivity. Waking up is one of the constraints of the day for young and old alike.
The soft and cuddly method
Wake him up with little caresses on the back, kisses on the hair for a gentle awakening… This is the method that we adults seem to prefer, but which is not necessarily suitable for all children. If it works, great, take the opportunity to fill your child’s emotional reservoir and start the day well. But if, on the other hand, your (grumpy) child turns his back on you, sweeps away your caresses with the back of his hand, seems annoyed, even angry or exasperated, don’t try to reason with him or resist, that won’t help. Each child has their own sensitivity, it is up to us to accept that this moment of awakening can be violent and unpleasant for him, and that he verbalizes it in this way. Continue to be gentle.
Switch from a night atmosphere to a day atmosphere
Start by turning on a soft or subdued light, and opening the shutters gradually. Do entering natural light means the day begins.
Wake up to music
Playing music in the house creates a very pleasant atmosphere, conducive to a similar awakening. Soft or classical music, rather than “Boom boom” which can be more violent. If you turn on the radio, be careful not to come across the news log!
Makes some noise !
start to prepare breakfastclose or open the cupboards, turn on the coffee machine… Ambient noise can help a child wake up (if they are not too deep sleepers!)
Give her a wake up call
It’s very good to get a child used to getting up with an alarm clock and especially to give it his whole life, rather than a telephone like us! Some children’s alarm clocks have very pleasant ringtones, like nursery rhymes, always better than the “beep beep”.
Make your child independent and involve him
Empower the child, involving him in the morning routine can also help him get up! We can ask him how and with what he wants to wake up, if he has the notion of the time, at what time, build with him a small clock to detail the stages, make him choose his alarm clock, etc. We can prepare his clothes together the day before so that he wants to dress alone. Afterwards, don’t expect them to jump out of bed, fresh as roach!